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Jacque Stonehocker's avatar

Thank you for sharing so honestly with us. And thank you for taking care of YOU by not taking those two stairs. You are so important and loved.

Dawn C. Allan's avatar

Thank you so much, Jacque. ❤️

Lore's avatar

Thank you for sharing this story with us. So many of us have disabilities with varying effects we try to hide. But I think even two stairs without a railing is a different issue as I remind myself of an item on my list to get a railing for just the single step from the patio at my new house. Please don’t discount all of what you did for keeping safe.

Dawn C. Allan's avatar

Thank you so much, Lore. And it’s so true - we try to hide our disabilities; our limits. I always want to appear like everyone else although I’m not and most likely at least one other person in the group is trying to hide their own disabilities. Congratulations on your new house! 😊💜

Mary Monoky's avatar

Thank you for sharing this so honestly. I think many of us living with chronic illness have had our own version of those "two steps." What struck me most is how dynamic disability can be. Some days I can manage a full flight of stairs if there's a railing. Other days, even the single step down to my patio feels daunting. It can change that quickly. Thank you for putting words to an experience that so many people quietly carry.

Dawn C. Allan's avatar

Thank you, Mary, and I agree. Disability is dynamic and I never know day to day what I will be able to manage. That can be so frustrating! Thank you for sharing that you understand and that what I wrote was relatable, although I wish you didn’t experience it too. 💜

Sharlene Tartaglini's avatar

Thank you, Dawn 💜 I can relate to your raw and real account of living with chronic pain, disease and disability. The truth is many of us live with “invisible illnesses that plague our activities of daily living (ADL) and cause us to retrace our steps when pain or inflammation strikes. What did I do? or how did I overdo? Each day is an adventure in balancing your energy and chronic fatigue with ADL. Bless you for your honesty and vulnerability. 🙌💜🙏

Wendy Carr's avatar

Dawn, this is so relatable and I appreciate your honesty. Seeing a challenge like those two stairs and deciding in the moment how best to handle it is an ever evolving adventure. I’m glad you took care of you. It’s still hard for me to accept the fact that I can’t do all I think I should be able to. I’m shocked every time I realize it’s been more than five years since I started down the long and winding road of acceptance. It helps to have friends like you who understand.